I recently have random chats with strangers when meeting
them for the first time (either face to face, or just a random chat or dating
site). It just gets me at times because they way people portray themselves when
they first meet you is to judge your standings. I’m not saying that the advice
they give you is bad, I’m saying of the way they give advice to you tend to be
attacking you on how you should live your life. I do enjoy getting advice,
filter what I need and what I don’t, and still can make my own decisions. But
some people take this seriously as a matter of fact that they are receiving
advice they don’t want to hear from strangers who don’t know what they’ve been
through.
From this particular experience with an Uber driver, who started off with criticising where I waited for him to arrive, to where I should wait, to why it would be easier to get a car at my position, to advising on my loans on how to get it approved (was annoyed starting here cause I already went through the trouble of getting the loan and getting it approved already)-à to which when he heard about my income, my loan and all he said it’ll not be approved, and then asking about what car I’m getting, to talking about the car I’m getting is being targeted due to an accident that killed a family, to him ranting about his children and being angry at my generation (to which I agree for the most part) for silly and petty things, to what I’m doing, and to finally give me MORE advice about Sound System. Who knew a car ride with Uber would be this intense? He also kept on repeating the line “I’m only telling you this through my experience” which in a way I symphatize with and for him.
I’ll just put this as a note and a reminder to myself. I usually don’t go advising people and asking them to do things unless I’m asked to by they themselves. That’s because I know how it feels like being pushed around by other people when you never asked for it. Though the intentions may be good, it might be the very thing that can cause indecisiveness and low self esteem in people.
From this particular experience with an Uber driver, who started off with criticising where I waited for him to arrive, to where I should wait, to why it would be easier to get a car at my position, to advising on my loans on how to get it approved (was annoyed starting here cause I already went through the trouble of getting the loan and getting it approved already)-à to which when he heard about my income, my loan and all he said it’ll not be approved, and then asking about what car I’m getting, to talking about the car I’m getting is being targeted due to an accident that killed a family, to him ranting about his children and being angry at my generation (to which I agree for the most part) for silly and petty things, to what I’m doing, and to finally give me MORE advice about Sound System. Who knew a car ride with Uber would be this intense? He also kept on repeating the line “I’m only telling you this through my experience” which in a way I symphatize with and for him.
I’ll just put this as a note and a reminder to myself. I usually don’t go advising people and asking them to do things unless I’m asked to by they themselves. That’s because I know how it feels like being pushed around by other people when you never asked for it. Though the intentions may be good, it might be the very thing that can cause indecisiveness and low self esteem in people.
